Anger Management – 5 tips to help control anger

anger-managementControlling anger

Anger, man’s natural and healthy reaction to stress, is increasingly being acted on with physical violence, even though we are wealthier, take more holidays and generally lead more comfortable lives.

Many theorists put this down to the fast pace of life.? If anger isn’t managed successfully it can have a detrimental effect on our personal relationships, our self esteem and our opportunities in life.

5 Tips to help control anger

1. Take time out. ?Don’t react immediately to a situation, count to 10 or step away from the situation or individual that is upsetting you, this helps to dilute the anger.? Time out could mean taking a brisk walk or simply leaving the room.

2. Role reversal. ?This simply means you put yourself in the other persons place. Think about what you would do and how you would feel in their situation.? This strategy helps you gain a different perspective other than your own in this situation that has caused you feelings of anger or frustration.

3. The 3 step way of dealing with a situation. ?A way of dealing with an individual who has made you angry or upset is a 3 step approach.?? The Event?When you have calmed down, sufficiently, briefly convey to the individual the incident that is causing the problem, you may need to write this down.

Your feelings tell the individual how you feel about the situation using ‘I’ messages. You need to use ‘I’ messages to show that you take responsibility for your feelings, they belong to you. If you use ‘You’ messages it will appear that you are blaming them and the individual may become angry. ??Your needs? explain what you need from them in order to help you both resolve the situation. This opens it up for discussion and hopefully resolution, all done in a calm way, if possible.

4. A usefully management skill is changing the conversation in your head.? Your inner conversation, if negative and aggressive has a major impact on your anger. ?If you learn to control and change the thoughts that pop in you head it will have a major impact on how you deal with the situation. CBT ( Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and Hypnosis can help change your inner conversation.

5. Recognising stress ?when you recognise that you may be reacting to a situation with anger because you are stressed, finding ways to reduce stress before it turns into anger is very effective. Ways of reducing stress could be meditation, exercising or listening to music.

Counsellor City of LondonAbout The Author

Sam Dring is a fully qualified Counsellor located in The City of London.

To find our more about Sam’s work visit her GoToSee profile page here

Or

Visit her website www.121therapy.com


Submit an Article Submit your article
Share

Related articles & videos



Find a local practitioner
Search Therapist

One Response to “Anger Management – 5 tips to help control anger”

  1. Paul Koppel Says:

    Useful stuff. Anger management is necessary for everyone. I really like the second technique, Role reversal. When we are in the other person, surely we can control our anger. Because when we are facing the situations like this, it is really embarrassing. Thank you for these useful tips.

Leave a Reply

 



Do not copy from this page - plagiarism will be detected by Copyscape. If you want to use our content click here for syndication criteria