Top Tips for a Harmonious Family Christmas
The Christmas holidays can be a magical period – where we get to spend time with our loved ones, but all this extra contact can be a double-edged sword. Here are some useful tips on how to have an enjoyable and peaceful holiday period.
Tip One – Focus on the positives!
Whether you’re visiting relatives or entertaining them at yours, write down a list of everyone who’ll be attending. Come up with five things you love about them (e.g. sense of humour, attention to detail) – this will focus your mind to witness their good traits.
Tip Two – It’s OK to feel sad
Thoughts and feelings are important signals (as is the case for physical pain) that tell us whether we’re on track – all people experience sadness from time to time. We believe others will think there’s something wrong with us if we’re not spending the whole day dancing around the Christmas tree and wearing a reindeer jumper with a big smile on our faces! Use a diary or notepad (or a Dictaphone) to record your feelings – acknowledging them in this way can have a significant therapeutic benefit.
Tip Three – Be open to different ways of giving and receiving
As humans, we give in several different ways: words of kindness, gifts, time, and physical gestures. We all have one preferred method, but they can be different even amongst family members. Some may happily buy expensive presents but find it hard to express their affection through words and hugs. Think about how you tend to express yourself and then be open to the other options.
Tip Four – How to get your own way!
A lot of disagreements may arise from individuals trying to impose their will on others – a much better way to get what we want is the subtle practice of building rapport. You don’t even have to agree with the content of what someone says but if your body language matches theirs you’ll both feel like you’re on the same wavelength. Start by matching their posture, gestures and tone of voice – you’ll be amazed at the results! One final word of advice though – avoid mimicry, that won’t be appreciated!
|About The Author
Paul Brown is a life coach and NLP practitioner who specialises in assisting clients of all ages and backgrounds explore what they really want (which may differ from what they think is currently possible) and then helping them access their inner resources to achieve their potential.