Psychotherapy/Counselling – Transactional Analysis

Transactional Analysis approach to counselling/psychotherapy

Transactional Analysis was founded by Eric Berne, who sought to demystify psychotherapy and developed concepts, language and methods which were understandable to everyone.

Transactional Analysis believes that we are all living according to our script – a life plan, that is formed at about the age of 6 under the influence of the authority figures.

From this early age we see the world through the prism of our life script and either ignore the facts that don’t fit in or notice only the matching episodes.

Obviously, our “script vision” does not allow us to see all the variety of choices that life has to offer. As a result, we keep moving in circles, sometimes wondering why same things keep happening to us again and again.

For example, the person with a “Work Hard” script, will keep working overtime despite the signs of deteriorating health. The thought of stopping and having a holiday would not even occur to him. Or the woman with Don’t be important script message might marry several times to the men who make her feel unimportant, therefore reinforcing her script beliefs.

Pregnancy and Transactional Analysis

Having a baby is a highly emotional time for anyone. When we are tired and under stress, that is the time when our Script directives become most powerful.

For example, somebody with a “Be Perfect” script type may feel that his or her perfect world is blown to pieces with the arrival of a little baby and nothing will ever be perfect again.

On the other hand, a person with a “Work Hard” script theme will understand motherhood as yet another hard task, that has to be worked on, and just get on with it.

If a mother grew up in a household where loud expression of emotions was taboo, she might find dealing with a colicky baby overwhelming. She might experience a sense of total helplessness, feelings of guilt or anger, or even get seriously depressed.

So how can Transactional Analysis help?

TA believes that our scripts can be changed and that we can live the life we choose, not the one we were programmed to live. After acknowledging your script beliefs you can then challenge them and replace them with the new ones.

Here is how it worked for some of my previous clients:

1. My first client, Laura, was a mother of 2, 5 year old and 1 year old twins. A successful business woman in the past, Laura was getting depressed staying at home with small children and relying on her husband to earn a living. Her husband was very supportive of her going back into business again, but she was torn between the desire to be a “perfect mother” and re-claim her “former life”.

In a course of several sessions we explored Laura’s feelings about working and her feelings about being a mother, which revealed complicated relationship between her “inner child” and “inner parent”. What we achieved was Laura’s new ability to rid herself of adopted feelings and prejudices, which did not belong to her, and discover the feelings and desires of her own. With that new skill acquired Laura was able to build a new life, which included her children and her work, the way she wanted it, not the way she was “meant” to live.

2. Maria, mother of a three months old baby, felt overwhelmed by motherhood and new responsibilities. Always a perfectionist, she took her baby crying as a sign that she was not a good enough mother and was getting more and more depressed. Together we worked at detecting Maria’s inner critical voice and changing it to a voice of support and encouragement. Maria then learned to enjoy being a mum, rather than trying to Be a Perfect Mother.

3. Another client, Anna, realised over the course of our sessions, that she could no longer live her life trying to keep her mother happy. The way she did it was by being unsuccessful and not allowing herself to write, which was her secret ambition. Ignoring her mother’s statement that “girls should get married” and that “writing is not a proper job”, she went on to show one of her scripts to a famous film director. The movie came out this year and was a success. Now Anna is working on a novel.

About The Author

Anna Storey is a fully qualified counsellor. Anna is working from Thame, drawing clients from the surrounding areas of Oxfordshire, Buckinghamshire and Berkshire.

Anna works in both English and Russian.

For more information and contact details visit Anna’s therapy page here

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