Building Self Confidence And Helping Low Self Esteem

Helping low self confidence and low self esteem

Although self confidence is a feeling, I find it incredible how other people can read how you feel just by looking at you. Phrases such as: ‘He looks confident’, ‘He seems confident’ are used all the time but what specifically are people seeing to make such assumptions and how can you benefit from it?

To answer these questions why not try this little confidence experiment. Go on, it will only take a minute:

Boosting self esteem and building self confidence

If I asked you to behave like a person who was experiencing sadness, what would you do? Have a go now, pretend you are an actor/actress and notice what you do to get into the role. Do you hunch your shoulders, frown and look down towards the floor? These are just some of the things you might do. How do you feel doing this? Chances are that you will feel sad.

OK, stop that and start to behave like a person who is experiencing happiness. As an actor/actress, how do you portray happiness? Do you stand up tall with a smile on your face and look straight ahead? Many people who experience happiness do a similar thing. Do you feel happier now?

The point of this experiment is to prove something to you. How you hold yourself (your physiology) has a direct effect on how you feel. So just as when you feel happy you will tend to hold yourself in a certain way, when you are feeling sad, by changing how you hold yourself, you can feel better!  So what feelings do you want to experience more of?

One of the main requests I receive from clients is that they want to feel more self confident and improve low self esteem problems. Now there are many ways that that confidence building can be achieved however by adapting the experiment above, you can learn a quick and easy way to feel more confident whenever you need to.

When it is safe to do so, close your eyes and imagine someone who personifies confidence to you. They could be a movie star, sportsperson or anyone you know. Notice everything you can about this person and see how they sit, stand and move. What qualities do you notice about how they hold themselves, their facial expressions and their breathing etc?

As you get a good impression of how your confidence model holds her/ himself, in your mind, float up out of your body and into theirs. What does it feel like to be in their body, how does their confidence feel? Start to move your body exactly the same way as your model does and copy everything that you believe they do confidently.

As you do this become aware of any differences in how you feel. Do you feel as confident as your model? If not keep looking for what they do that you may not have noticed yet. As you become aware of anything new, add it to how you are already holding and moving yourself.

When your model is feeling really confident, become aware of what they say to themselves and how they say it. Is it encouraging, supportive, and warm? Does this increase their confidence or self esteem further? How confident do you feel as you do this? Anchor this feeling. (If you know how)

Learn to help low self confidence and boost low self esteem

This can be a fantastic exercise to boost how you feel about yourself quickly and effectively because your mind and body are intrinsically linked. Your mind can affect your body and your body can affect your mind. As you practice exercises like this not only do you feel more confident in the present, your mind and body will also learn new ways to act helping you to become a more confident person for the rest of your life whilst at the same time helping improve your self esteem.

Do not underestimate what can be achieved from an exercise like this. Allow yourself to do this for 5 minutes a day and you may soon notice beneficial changes take place in how you feel.

This confidence building technique can be adapted in lots of ways. When you can do the above exercise easily, why not experiment for yourself and discover what works best for you.

Have fun and be confident.

Article Submitted By:
Mark Watkins, Infinite Mind

Date Published:
04/06/08

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